It’s that time of year when many of us give our bodies an MOT by eating healthily, doing more exercise or resting our liver. It’s also a great time to give your sex life a makeover, improve your sexual relationship and have amazing sex this year.
Make 2016 the year when you do the following….
Tell your partner what you want
Let your partner know what you want sexually. Our needs change over time and what may have worked for you before might not be hitting the spot now. By letting them know exactly what you want will lead to a more satisfying sexual experience for both of you.
So many women feel they need to keep their feelings under control and never really “let go” during sexual intercourse. Switch the chatter off in your head and concentrate on all the sensual feelings coursing through your body.
Make noises of encouragement to let your partner know they are hitting all the right spots!
Revealing your inner self to your partner and being who you really are, not who you think you should be, will encourage them to be more open with you.
Spice up your sexual routine
Has your sex life become boring?
Make 2016 the year you try something new inside and outside the bedroom. Have a regular date night, going out or staying in and watch a naughty film in front of the fire. Go to bed earlier and have sex.
Have sex in the daytime if you can, try “quickie sex” during your lunch hour- it might lead to more fun later that evening, and if not, you’ll go back to work with a smile on your face!
Experiment with different positions, rooms in your home, spend more time just having “foreplay”:
– sex doesn’t always have to be penetrative!
Buy some new underwear to tantalise your man or go commando for an evening and let him know!
Many couples own a “sex toy”: which can add spice to your sex life. Using sex toys can enhance your pleasure, creating different sexual sensations. It’s easy to buy sex toys online, so have a browse and choose his and her toys to get your sexual juices flowing and have fun.
Make a wish list
Always wanted to have sex in a lift, under the stars or try a sex toy?
Make a list of sexual activities you would like to try and compare your list to see if you have the same ideas in mind, you may be surprised what both of you have in common.
Your list might include trying a sex toy, “light bondage“: such as tie up games, blindfolds, role play, reading or watching erotica, food play or talking dirty. Be as inventive as you want but respect your partner if there is something on your list that they really aren’t keen to try and vice versa. Try incorporating one or two activities into your life each month.
Get back into the rhythm
Most problems in the bedroom stem from not having sexual intercourse and you can always come up with an excuse. By making time to have sex again, you’ll probably find yourself having and wanting more.
The biggest stumbling block to not having sex is not communicating with each other.If there is a problem, talk about it and try to find a way to resolve the issue. If you have different needs, find ways to compromise and satisfy both your desires.
Create a sexual haven
Make your bedroom a sexual haven by ensuring that the door has a lock on it when your children go walkabout or parents come to stay. Soundproof it with heavy curtains and carpeting to avoid any embarrassing sounds being heard or play music to cover your pleasure.
Invest in a full length mirror, preferably portable to spice up your sexual intercourse. Having sex on a chair in front of a mirror is fun – just make sure it is big enough to hold both of you!
Ensure that you have your favourite sex toy, lubricant and tissues nearby in the bedside drawer to have on hand just when you need them.
Clean crisp sheets on the bed make the whole sexual experience feel luxurious and will make you want to climb in between them. Have a few cushions scattered around to place under your hips or use your pillow. Whatever you do, make 2016 the year you have amazing sex.
Written by Samantha Evans, Sexual Health and Well Being Expert and co-owner of Jo Divine