The Fifty Shades of Grey Submit to Me Beginners Bondage Kit, one of the many wonderful toys by E.L. James and Lovehoney, is a kit comprising of 4 satin bondage restraints, a padded soft blindfold and a padded spanking paddle. For the 50 Shades lovers out there, this may be just what you need to live the fantasy. It’s perfect for those that need something different in their love lives, this is an incredible place to start.

The combination of the restraints, blind fold and paddle, is naughty enough to add a little something to the bedroom, but not too far to make it an awkward experience between those who haven’t explored it yet. Once again a beautifully made product by Lovehoney, this is a deluxe-style kit for all those wanting to explore their inner Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey.

Eye Mask and one of the restraints

Eye Mask and one of the restraints

The lovely box the kit comes with

The lovely box the kit comes with

The Paddle and Satin Bag

The Paddle and Satin Bag

 

What she says

Having never really explored bondage even to this extent, it was very exciting receiving the Fifty Shades package. The kit comes in an extremely professional, sturdy box, and like the rest of the toys, has its very own satin bag. I noticed firstly that the products were extremely well made and felt very luxurious with its satin, faux fur and leather. This kit also sticks with the same colour scheme as all the toys with the grey and black of the Fifty Shades books.

I was familiar with some aspects of bondage but had never explored it to this extent, even though I was sure I wanted to at some point. I expected the restraints and blindfold to be quite fun, and had a feeling I would like some use of the paddle. When we first used the kit, I treated Mr A to a full tie up, blindfold and paddle session, mainly using tease and oral sex. I definitely enjoyed being the dominating partner in this, and loved the control and the surprise element that the whole kit gave.

As the kit suggests, I tried the paddle out on my own skin to show myself what force I should use, and used it on Mr A carefully but confidently. I found the paddle aspect a little hilarious, which was fun, and I was sure that he found it sexy. The restraints were just the right length to tie him to the bed and seemed comfortable to wear. Me being in control was really enjoyable for both of us I think. The blindfold was useful in the element of surprise and seemed to heighten his senses to touch and sound and really made the experience really enjoyable.

When using this kit the other way around, I was very giggly and found it, overall, distracting. The restraints were comfortable, but due to my smaller size did pull, rather than feeling relaxed. The blindfold was comfortable on my face but soon my eyelashes irritated my eyes, as it was quite tight on my head. Mr A used a vibrator to tease and relax me, which did start to help, however, I couldn’t stop laughing when he used the paddle and although I found it sexy at times, I just couldn’t feel relaxed. There was a part of me that enjoyed being submissive but actually, I am definitely the one that likes to be in control. As it killed the mood a little this time, we decided to carry on without the kit.

 

What he says

Like Miss K I was a beginner of bondage. Like most couples I’ve bought hand cuffs and blindfolds as joke presents, but that’s as far as I’ve gone. So when we found out we were going to be testing the Beginners Bondage Kit I was quite looking forward to playing with it and spanking Miss K around the arse with the paddle.

Yet again as we’re finding with the Fifty Shades of Grey range they’ve really made an effort to create products that are well made with luxurious materials and tasteful designs. The ties are really nice and silky to stop you from getting friction marks on your hands and feet. The mask is padded so it sit comfortably over the eyes. The paddle is double sided, one side is padded for softer spanking, the other being leather for if they’ve been extra naughty. To house all these quality products they provide a nice matte black box with the Fifty Shades of Grey logo pressed into it and a black satin bag.

The first time we used this kit I let Miss K wear the trousers…or at least be in charge of the paddle and restraints. We laughed and joked as she blind folded me and tied me to our four poster bed. Then she went quiet…not being able to see anything was an unusual thing, I didn’t know what to expect or when the paddle was going to hit me….it was intense! Not being able to move and not knowing when it was going to happen was a new experience for me and I loved it. The paddle added to my anticipation, was I going to get a kiss on part of my body, a gentle stroke or a kinky slap with the paddle. When the paddle first hit it was a nice sensation, not too hard and not too soft (I’d obviously not annoyed Miss K that day), mixing the slapping in with kisses and soft touches made the whole thing extremely enjoyable and I could tell Miss K was having fun being in control.

It was only fair for me to return the favor and tie the lovely Miss K up and put her through the excitement she’d put me through. Miss K is a whole foot shorter than me so it was a bit difficult securing her to the posts of our bed, but our bed is stupidly big and I can’t see anyone else having the same issue. With the blind fold on I thought I’d bring a few extra toys out to add to her punishment. Using a vibrating massager and some GiveLube gel I set to work using them along with the paddle. It was obvious 10 minutes in that Miss K doesn’t like not know what to expect or not being in control for that matter. Although it was fun and we had a laugh while I was playing with the paddle, the restraints and eye mask made her feel a bit uncomfortable to the stage that we gave up with the kit…although spanking Miss K was fun while it lasted, it spoilt the moment slightly seeing that she wasn’t enjoying it as much as I did!

 

 

Tips

  • As the kit suggests, familiarise your own skin with the paddle, before using it on your partner.
  • Also as suggested by the kit, come up with a code word that means ‘stop’ when things get a little bit too much for either of you.
  • Combine the kit with the use of other toys, such as a vibrator.
  • For those that are completely new to this, use one bit of the kit at a time to introduce it slowly into the bedroom.
  • Take turns with whose restrained.
  • The restraints don’t just have to be used to tie your partner to the bed, they can also be used to hands/feet together like cuffs or to each other.
  • Always be safe when using any types of bondage or spanking.

 

Where to buy

Lovehoney UK

Lovehoney US

 

Ratings

As we both have different opinions on this we’ve both rated the product separately.

 

her rating

Overall, I really enjoyed the use of the kit on Mr A as it brought something different to ‘his treat’ and I found the role dominating and sexy for myself. I will definitely use this to surprise him again and experiment with the use of the different bits of the kit. For myself, I’d be willing to have a go again but I prefer to use the restraints part on him, and maybe the paddle part on me, either way I definitely like being in control. My score for this being used on myself, 6/10. The kit will be a useful tool in the bedroom, but just isn’t for me.

 

his rating

I really enjoyed the experience and think there’s a lot more we can do with the kit to allow Miss K to feel at ease with it. I think this kit is a bargain at the price and is perfect for any couple interested in trying out a bit of soft bondage. I found it exciting to reverse rolls and have Miss K in control, and the anticipation was brilliant. For me it’s a 9/10 as it’s something I had fun taking part in and would love to do again. Hopefully I can turn Miss K’s 6 into at least an 8 over the next few weeks!